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Fear
Jul 22, 2005 1:57:17 GMT -5
Post by ne ws oci e ty on Jul 22, 2005 1:57:17 GMT -5
I have a problem with fear of the unknown. I am really into paranormal stuff but especially after a night of reading about ghosts and aliens and stuff I won't be able to go to sleep for a while. Sometimes the fear is overwhelming. I'll be thinking about these things and my monitor will turn off or something random will happen and my heart will skip a beat and I'll jump and be scared out of my wits. I don't know why I am so scared, but I have no idea how I will react if I see an alien or some supernatural entity around me at night. I am scared that I would have a heart attack or something. Is this normal? This is definately a hinderance to me. I keep thinking that I've come a long way spiritually and I'll make a shift to crystal soon or something, but I am so scared and I think that's what is holding me back. I'd like to hear from you all and request help also...what is wrong with me...I am near 18 and indigo but have to sleep with a light on sometimes... It doesn't help that I have quite the imagination...I can see in my mind waking up with a tall alien next to my bed, or a shadow looming over me, and it immediately gives me the shivers. I do remember as a child being very scared of aliens. Maybe this all has roots in my childhood. I remember watching a few shows on aliens when I was young, and I used to look at my ceiling fan at night and it would be a flying saucer and I'd get really scared. One night I thought a huge furry alien was in my closet and stayed up all night scared to death. And one night there was some sort of person knocking on my window when I woke up, and I was in a 3-story house at the time. There's no way anyone could have gotten up there. dun dun dun.. It would be great to hear from the rest of you on this issue... I'm not one bit scared of the human world and feel very confident in myself, but I am very scared of the unknown...maybe just certain aspects of it, I don't know...
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Fear
Jul 22, 2005 8:04:12 GMT -5
Post by Laurel Chaisson on Jul 22, 2005 8:04:12 GMT -5
Newsociety, I used to have the same problem! Well, I still do, I suppose... ;D I used to have an anxiety disorder (linked to aspartame). You see, when we're scared we become hyper alert - every single sound, movement, and fear is amplified and made out to be something terrifying by our own imaginations! There's nothing wrong with being completely freaked out... believe me, that's natural! So is any racing heartbeat, quick breathing, and muscle pain you may experience... you're body is preparing itself to run away like it would in the wild. You're not going to have a heart attack... especially if you take care of yourself. I think at night, anyone can imagine an alien or shadow standing right outside the door... I freak myself out that way a lot, lol!! Try to get your mind off the supernatural a few hours before you go to bed (and whenever if comes to mind at night) by reading, watching a movie, playing a game (nothing scary, of course). It took a long time but eventually I stopped being scared... also, if you have trouble falling asleep (I used to believe I wouldn't wake up O___o;) trying telling yourself that you're not going to sleep, you're just going to dream. Then close your eyes and make a story for yourself... a dream. Eventually you'll fall asleep without your brain realizing and getting scared. You may want to talk to someone too... you could have an anxiety/panic disorder.
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Fear
Jul 23, 2005 0:41:05 GMT -5
Post by thecrystalmaiden on Jul 23, 2005 0:41:05 GMT -5
I actually have your exact same problem, and I made the switch to crystal a long time ago! (It was because of family tragedy though, so probably wasn't connected to my fear in any way.) It used to be that I was so paralyzed by fear at night that I'd sleep the entire time with my head facing the wall so I wouldn't have to wake up and see some ghost walking around the room in front of me. I never did anything but give into the fear so I got into the habbit of feeding it by closing my eyes whenever I shut off the light just so I wouldn't see some terrifying figure staring back at me in the mirror or from my closet.
What I'm beginning to realize now, though, is that this fear really is a huge block in my psychic development. It's keeping me from relaxing. What's I've done that has helped me immensely is first I wrote a huge journal entry about my fears and why I was afraid. This helped me organize the reasoning in my head and better deal with the emotion. Then I just relied on my spirituality to guide me - God is in all of us and we are all a piece of God; all of his powers are inside of us. There is nothing in both the spiritual realm and the physical realm that can hurt you, especially if you know it can't hurt you. If there is nothing that can hurt you, then what's the use of fear? Using this mentality, I'm now able to force myself to look around my room at night and I'm slowly but surely facing down my fears. The more I face them down, the less powerful they become - and I'm finding that a lot of other fears and timidness I didn't even know I had is going away too. It's very freeing!
Good luck, and don't worry, you're definitely not alone. =)
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Fear
Jul 23, 2005 3:39:44 GMT -5
Post by ne ws oci e ty on Jul 23, 2005 3:39:44 GMT -5
thanks for the replies. everyone else is still welcome to if they would like, of course.
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Fear
Jul 26, 2005 6:26:43 GMT -5
Post by indigophoenix on Jul 26, 2005 6:26:43 GMT -5
well i might as well throw an opinion in quick.
the fear of the unknown can be a frightening thing, but as a therapist would put it, fear comes from lack of understanding. so a constructive thing to do would be to strive to understand that which you don't. and like laurel said, if it gets to be too overwhelming, find something that helps take your mind off your fears. Drawing, writing, etc.
Good luck ;D
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Fear
Jul 26, 2005 8:07:35 GMT -5
Post by Uriah on Jul 26, 2005 8:07:35 GMT -5
Every once in a while I still get scared of the dark because I don't know whats out there. I usually manage to take a look around and I realize nothing is out there and if there was it wouldn't be able to hurt me.
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Fear
Jul 26, 2005 23:24:06 GMT -5
Post by indigophoenix on Jul 26, 2005 23:24:06 GMT -5
I know what ya mean. I still get a little jumpy sometimes in dark places. I've gotten used to it for the most part though. I've got a forest near my house that I know like the back of my hand so I'll occasionaly go walk around there at night. It's actually pretty fun sittin on a tree stump at night in the middle of the woods. There are so many sounds to enjoy that you don't hear during the day! I find it quite relaxing
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Fear
Jul 27, 2005 9:41:03 GMT -5
Post by thecrystalmaiden on Jul 27, 2005 9:41:03 GMT -5
I envy you - in a good way. Lol. =)
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Fear
Jul 30, 2005 3:55:17 GMT -5
Post by indigophoenix on Jul 30, 2005 3:55:17 GMT -5
lol I think that fear can be a good thing though. The way I see it, it's just our minds way of telling us that there is still more that we have to learn. We can use that fear as a starting point towards learning something new. Like you said CrystalMaiden, succumbing to fear only holds one back in the long run. And not only that, but dwelling on your fears will only amplify them.
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Fear
Jul 30, 2005 13:32:38 GMT -5
Post by ne ws oci e ty on Jul 30, 2005 13:32:38 GMT -5
yeah I agree with that. In the past while I've gotten much better, just admitting the problem and "attacking" it.
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Fear
Aug 8, 2005 15:45:41 GMT -5
Post by gemma on Aug 8, 2005 15:45:41 GMT -5
I always feared the night when I was a child. There needed to be a lamp in my room, wich would brighten all night long. Plus I have panic-disorder.
I have a lot of fluffy fur-animals in my bed, I sleep with them. They help me. And when I am afraid of nightmares or "other things" I always imagine a big, bright golden tube around my body which protects me with its warmth and light. It is closed and I am inside of it, like an unborn child in the mother's womb. Try it. It is simple, and it works!
If it helps, I will think of you, every night, before I go to sleep. It will reach you. I feel all of you. I am not alone anymore.
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Fear
Aug 8, 2005 15:49:14 GMT -5
Post by gemma on Aug 8, 2005 15:49:14 GMT -5
Unknown things can be interesting too. An unknown path in the forest is always a great joy for me. At the end of the path I can find animals, flowers, sun. Never be afraid of unknown that kind. I wish you happiness.
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Fear
Aug 9, 2005 2:03:06 GMT -5
Post by ne ws oci e ty on Aug 9, 2005 2:03:06 GMT -5
thanks for the thoughts everyone my problem has gotten much better over this short period of time.
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