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Post by thecrystalmaiden on Jun 8, 2006 20:25:13 GMT -5
I just don't understand it, but it's been bothering me my entire life.
I've never been overweight to the point of obese, but I am about 35 pounds heavier than where I should be and it shows. At my best, I wear a "large" shirt (equal to a medium T-shirt), everyone calls me "thick boned" or "solid" or "chubby" even though no one calls me fat... well at least, not anymore....
It started when I was 8, my mom was so horrified that I was overweight that she put me on a diet. She would always call me fat, always pick on me and what I was eating, she made it so now I feel mentally guilty every time I pick up some food. When I was 11 I moved to Los Angeles, California - the "hot spot" for US media activity, Hollywood, etc. - and in the public school system kids picked on me. No one would be my friend and everyone made fun of me because I was overweight. It's left some pretty deep self confidence issues. I'm 17 now, I'm 5'4" and I weigh 165 pounds, I'm 35 pounds overweight, which is clinically classified as "overweight" but not "fat/obese." But I feel like a monster on the inside. I'm guilty every time I try to eat food, I've been drinking diet soda and water for a month straight now and I've only lost a few pounds, I hardly ever eat out, I haven't eaten fast food in forever, or junk food for that matter. I don't starve myself because that messes up your metabolism and makes it so you can never lose weight, but I don't feel like I eat a lot. . . everyone tells me I don't eat a lot. . . but I don't understand why I'm overweight. No, I don't exercise really, but then again most people who are my age don't excercise that much and still manage to be stick skinny, and especially here in LA girls are judged really harshly by their weight and body. I always feel low confident and bad about myself. It's getting to the point where I hate food, I hate looking at myself in mirrors - it always hurts when someone reminds me that I'm larger than I should be. My brother has been doing this a lot lately. I just want to feel like I'm normal and accepted, but because of all the pressure that has been put on me to be thin, I just can't feel that way, even if most of the people I'm around don't care.
On Monday my finals are over I'm going to start jogging, but times like these I just want to cry because I'm so frustrated. What am I doing wrong? Why is it that I can't just eat normally and be thin like everyone else? I don't believe in that "oh, it's genetics" BS because my aunt is really thin and even though my mom was overweight later in life, she wasn't always that way, especially when she was my age. Neither was my dad. My brother is in perfect shape. I feel like somehow I missed the bus.
I don't eat fast food, I don't eat junk food, I drink a lot of water and I haven't had a drink with calories in it for a month now, I don't go out to restaurants and eat like a pig. . . it's just so unfair. I feel like there's something wrong with my body, or like somehow I'm the only person in the world with this problem.
Guys, I could really use some emotional support here, how can I be thin? It's really important to me for every reason a person can imagine.
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Post by thecrystalmaiden on Jun 8, 2006 20:28:21 GMT -5
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Post by thecrystalmaiden on Jun 8, 2006 20:28:42 GMT -5
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Post by muirrin on Jun 8, 2006 23:04:09 GMT -5
To be perfectly honest, I don't see that as overweight. A lot of people I know are like that, or bigger. I understand that you do want to be thinner, though, and I wish I knew something so I could tell you. All I can do is give you a ton of *hugs* and let you know that I have the opposite problem - I lose weight for apparently no reason, and wouldn't mind not being so angular. Damn bodies
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Post by pearldancer on Jun 9, 2006 2:12:02 GMT -5
CM,
I know how you feel just now and I send BIG HUGS!! I would like to have you consider something . . .. you are a crystal child.. .. . you require strong grounding in order to manage all of the input that you recieve and are sensitive to on a regular basis. Our bodies are our tools in this life and they are extremely and beautifully responsive to our needs. Perhaps you have always been this way because your body knows that you need grounding and it provides that for you! I know and I understand all of the pressures and all of the ways our appearance can make us feel. .. . but I urge you to consider this and to see does it make sense to you?
Now. ... what can you do? Well, building muscle will raise metabolism, burning more fat even at resting and normal activities. You would want to be sure to build long lean muscles though. Otherwise you will appear more bulky. I HIGHLY recomend pilates and yoga for this. Yoga is excellent for the body overall and will also have the benefit of being a mind body activity which will help to ground you. Pilates focuses on the "core" body and creates strong abs and spinal muscles and the most excellent posture. .. . which will make you feel and look better even before you see any results on the scale. In fact. . . I would ditch the scale CM. .. because it is about how you feel and not about a number. Muscle weighs more than fat too. . .so you would not want to get depressed thinking you'd "gained weight"
That is what I would reccomend as far as physical activity. But mostly. .. .I think you should look at all the ways you can help to ground yourself so that your body can relax and not have to work so hard at this. Meditate, take time to relax, enjoy nature. .. enjoy whatever centers you and brings you back to a solid core of full heart centered YOU.
Ultimately, that will solve your true dilema. . .. either which way. . . because the true dilema is how can you feel good about yourself!
You are BEAUTIFUL! Never forget it!
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Post by muirrin on Jun 9, 2006 2:34:31 GMT -5
Pearl, that's a really good idea about pilates and yoga... the one thing I feel compelled to add (thanks to my dance teacher!) is that you should make sure that your pilates teacher has proper certificates, credentials etc... cos there's nothing worse than learning this sort of thing off someone who doesn't know what they're doing!!
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Post by radaeron on Jun 9, 2006 3:59:17 GMT -5
That's not overweight! 'Fraid I don't actually know anything that can help.. but I'm sure the yoga and pilates is a good idea.. But yeah... you're no where near overweight tbh...
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Post by jonnathetiger on Jun 9, 2006 9:25:02 GMT -5
Crystal,
I have had issues with my weight all my life. However, you are fortunate enough not to have let it controlled your teenage years & resulted to the development of eating disorders as I did to control it.
First of all, all that I can tell you is this--if everyone were the same, we would be very boring. Try to find out what you like most about yourself & focus on that. I was always told I had great hair in high school. So, I focused on that as my focal point. You have gorgeous hair, eyes, & skin....so what if you are not built like an actress...they are usually too bony in person anyway.
Secondly, if you feel you must lose weight, try eating 6 small meals a day instead of one large one or three heavy meals. I found eliminating eating after 6 PM was a good way to help manage my weight. At 13, I was 5' 1" & weighed 185 pounds, so I know what I am talking about! However, I also found I had gained weight prior to puberty & wound up being 125 pounds & 5' 9" by the time I graduated high school. However, I wound up not eating some days & then, when I became "normal" again, my weight became about 150 pounds for my adult life...until I gave birth, but that's another story...LOL
I guess my point is this--be you. Surround yourself with those who love you for you. Do not feel as though you don't have this or that because of how you look. It is normally based on how you act in what you get in return in life. Does that make sense?
I know what it feels like to not be happy with your weight--I was obsessed with it, especially when I was modeling. However, a photographer once told me something that I have applied in my life & I would like to share it with you. It may sound like a cliche', but it is true. He said:
"I see hundreds of beautiful girls in my line of work. But many of them, no matter how beautiful, cannot make it in this line of work. Do you know why? Because they cannot show me something that makes them unique. Find out what makes you unique & build upon it. You have to learn how to stand out in a crowd. People are fickle & get tired of the same thing--smart agencies look for uniqueness..."
Well, obviously, I never became a Supermodel (LOL), but I did learn the value of being "me"> Granted, even to this day, I sometimes feel as though "If I had been prettier/smarter/sexier, I could have ____________". However, I have also learned that inner beauty radiated throughout & you definitely, my friend, have your own beauty. You just need to be able to see your self as others do.
You are a very talented writer & I think you are very beautiful. Confidence is a hard thing to build, & it is very tough at your age as people can be so cruel, but you have alot going for you.
It's so funny for me as I used to look at photos where I felt that was "fat" & now I can only wish I could be a size 10 again! LOL I also have had some health problems that have caused me to lose weight & now I find I spent all those years focusing on my body were in vain---my body is as stubborn as my brain--it is in control of itself now & I am comfortable with it. Don't get me wrong--I still have days when I think people would like me more if I was thinner, but then I kick myself in the rear & realize that I do not judge my friends on their weight at all--quite the opposite in fact. I look for a light in a person's eyes, how they treat others, & how they make me feel...none of which have anything to do with their physical form.
Look for in yourself what you seek in others. We all see it. Just be patient with your self--your body in merely a temporary shell for your essence. Treat it well--it needs to last a long time. Just don't judge it by how you feel it looks. It takes a woman a long time to come to terms with ourself because of what society tells us we "should" be.
Some of the most beautiful people in the world are like books that have less than perfect covers--- because everyone wants to read them & everyone leaves a mark upon them....
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Post by Kivawolfspeaker on Jun 9, 2006 11:53:11 GMT -5
Hey CM,
Just to let you know, I'm smaller than you about 5'1" and weigh more than you about 175 last I checked. I'm also trying to eat healthier and loose weight. That is part of the reason why I took a summer job that requirred me to be active.
Also, we were talking about this in my Pysio. Psychology class and the professor said that the guy who came up with the numbers for what people should weigh at what height had an eating disorder, so the numbers are low. Besides, I think the health industry has the wrong focus. The focus should be on fat % or the % of your weight that is fat, instead of simply what you weigh in lbs or kg or whatever.
I send you hugs and will keep you in my thoughts.
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Post by shepardess on Jun 9, 2006 13:06:56 GMT -5
HI CM, I agree with what everyone else had to say but I'd love to offer you some information I just found. First of allDrinking diet soda and water entirely, especially for a crystal, is very harmful to your body. Diet soda is full of aspartame which turns to formaldahyde and ethyl alcohol in your body. A human would only need to consume a teaspoon of ethyl alcohol to see the fatal results. So I want to incourage all of you to stop drinking and eating anything with aspartame in it. Everyone should look up the history of the chemical just to see how crazy it is that we all eat it at all. Like the fact that it was intially craeted to be used in chemical warfare!!! www.aspartamekills.comThe next thing I recently came across that helped me tremendously was the master cleanse. It is a regemented fast that was created 60 years ago by this amazing man named Stanley Burroughs. www.frenzy.com/~sam/mc/TheMasterCleanse.pdfThats the link for the online book. I did it for ten days, initailly as a full body cleanse to try and detoxify my body for at 26 I still suffer with mild acne, and as the weight started falling of it was just another encouragement to keep on with it. In the last two years I had gained between 10-15 pound that wear just sticking and nothing seemed to get rid of them. The cleanse is difficult, don't get me wrong but the awesome thing is that there are so many forums so there is so much support for when you get down and think about quitting. Some people do the cleanses for 40 days, wow! what I noticed as far as the weight lose goes is that I think it helps your body figure more quickly how to become a fat buner instead of a sugar burner so it jumpstarts the preocess. I lost 15 pounds total and gained back about 5 of them which is to be expected as some of the weight is just water weight. If you want any more info on feel free to contact me via myspace as I don't log on hear that often. Another bit of information I had heard which seems like an interesting idea is that people in the ascension proces or those that already exist at higher vibrations often hold weight especially in thier stomach area as an unconscious way to stay grounded and not get lost in the vibrations they are experiencing. It kind of keeps them from feeling like they are dissappearing. The fact that you identify as Crystal would lead me to believe that your body is probally more sensitive than the alot of peoples. You may have been exposed to some toxins at an early age that affected the way you hold weight too, so if that was the case the cleanse would be a great starting point for you two. the other thing, as we all know and it sucks Is that the best way to lose and keep weight off is to exercise, blah! So after a cleanse a person has to be very careful how they eat and to exercise so as not to just put the weight back on quicker than it came off. My wedding is in less than two months and I have been thinking about doing another cleanse prior to it as sort of a ritual to prepare (marked with a little bit of vanity so if you ever start thinking you might want to do it we could partner up and offer support and a little drive. Goodluck Theresa and despite what the bogus current popular model of what a women should look like is, know that you are incredibly beautiful. Love, Kate
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Post by CrystalMaiden on Jun 9, 2006 21:05:49 GMT -5
Thank you Shephardess! I do hold all of my weight in the middle, and I've also thought it has something to do with staying grounded, since every time I lose below 150 pounds are start becoming extremely sensitive to the vibrations from my natural surroundings. It's very hard to explain, it's kinda like I can feel the trees and nature around me. Anyway. Be EXTREMELY careful about this cleanse! Never do anything shocking to your body, and if you're losing more than a pound a week, stop. This is why: We have three kinds of metabolism in our body. Resting Metabolism, Digesting Metabolism, and Active Metabolism. Resting metabolism uses up the bulk of our calories in a day, it's supposed to use up about 1500-1600 at least and up to 1800 at most *considering body types, muscle mass, etc.* Those calories we are burning all the time, even when we're sleeping, it's what our body does naturally by just laying around doing nothing. Digesting Metabolism is the calories we burn by digesting food, which is about 400 throughout the day. Active metabolism is the calories we burn just doing everday things, such as extreneous exercise, brushing our teeth, yawning, etc. With no extreneous exercise, it's about 200 calories a day. When you go on a "Crash diet" (aka any kind of eating habit where suddenly you're forcing your body to eat less than 1500 calories a day) your resting metabolism starts to drop. Meaning you're starving yourself. Meaning you're losing mucle, not fat, and your resting metabolism is dropping because it thinks you're starving to death, so you hold more fat onto your body and start using up muscle for energy. Of course, this will cause you to lose a lot of weight in a short amount of time, like 10 pounds in a week, but when you finally start to even out your eating again, your resting metabolism is now burning 1200 calories a day instead of 1600, and you will gain weight back faster and after a point you will never be able to lose weight past a certain level. You will permanently damage your resting metabolism over time by doing this, and tie you into a permanent "yo-yo" act of weight gaining and losing. So be CAREFUL!!! Other than that, I will definitely look into the stuff about diet soda, and I'll respond to what the rest of you said very shortly but I'm at school right now and it's time for my math final, so wish me luck everyone!
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Post by muirrin on Jun 9, 2006 21:15:58 GMT -5
Definitely lots and LOTS of good luck for you, CM! *more hugs*
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Post by CrystalMaiden on Jun 10, 2006 11:12:05 GMT -5
Pearldancer, I feel that grounding myself has been a large part of the slight overweight that I hold on my body, but I've been getting a strong urge lately that it's time to lose it. In the past I was going through a lot of emotional upheavals, family members died and I went through one hell of an abusive relationship, got involved with some bad people, etc., but right now everything seems to be balancing out and the negativity is flowing away. Also, it's extremely unhealthy to be overweight even if it's just in a minor way, and my dad has diabetes and my mother died from breast cancer, and her mother before her too, so I have a lot of genetic dispositions that I need to worry about. I was planning to start jogging because my current boyfriend is a runner and told me it'll become an addiction in no time, just do it for a month and I'll never want to stop, so that's what I'm going to try out. Dancing was always my greatest passion, I took ballet until I was 11 and tap dance until I was 14 but had to stop because of the pressures at school. However, I want to start up again with jazz, maybe I'll do that this summer after having jogged for a while so I won't start dancing at ground zero. It's a major workout! ^_^ I totally agree with what you said about meditating and relaxing out in nature, I've been craving that lately but I've been trapped at home under the pressure of finals. Thank god that's over now! Muirrin - I will definitely be very careful about the teachers I choose, because I've seen friends go to untrained teachers and end up seriously messing up their bodies. It's scary what a bad stretch can do to you! *shudder* Thanks for the kind words, and it's good to know not everyone sees that at overweight. I'm just so terribly body concious! And don't worry about gaining weight, by the time you reach middle age you'll probably be thankful for your metabolism, it'll keep you healthy! JonnatheTiger - Wow, you were a model! I saw your pictures on another thread and you're very beautiful, but I had no idea! That's really cool, lol, must have been fun for you. Anyway, I think what that photographer said to you was extremely true, and no it doesn't sound cliche at all. Strangely enough, people here seem to think that the ideal of beauty is for everyone to look alike, and everyone is copying each other - we don't hear much about uniqueness being attractive, though we all know it's true! I really understand what you said about focusing on what I like about myself and working from there. I do like my hair, I've always been complimented about it, and overall I like my face and my eyes and such, it's just the tummy that I have problems with. It's been easier actually changing my eating habbits recently though because for the first time my new boyfriend has actually told me he loves how I look and not to change it, and suddenly I'm free to do whatever I want with my body and I feel no obligation to do anything! Without the obligation, eating healthier is something I really want to do for myself, and it's a lot easier to do it for me than anyone else. Thanks so much for the encouragement! I know that people really look for the soul in another person and not how they look on the outside, losing weight is more what I want to do just so I can feel more confident about myself, but it's really good to hear it from someone older than me and more experienced. *hug* You've really been a big help. Rad - Thanks dude! You're totally rescuing my self confidence! Sometimes girls just really need to hear that from a guy. Jen - It's good to know someone else out there can really identify with how I'm feeling. Don't worry though! We'll both have success by the end of the summer, I'm sure. We should compare progress, maybe it'll make it easier? Eh, who knows. I've often suspected that about the weight/height charts myself, but even my "body fat index" (the percentage of fat to muscle mass in my body) is not where it should be at, I took a health class a semester ago that went over all that stuff. *Sigh* it's so frustrating to have to deal with this kind of stuff. Anyway, let me know how the job thing goes, and I hope everything works out for you! *hug* Oh, and Shephardess - We need wedding pictures! I'm so excited for you! Thanks a ton for the support guys! I really appreciate it, you've all made me feel so much better. I feel like I'm really ready right now to be patient with myself and get my health where I want it to be - it's just such a struggle, lol. Hugs to all!
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Post by thecrystalmaiden on Jun 12, 2006 0:13:48 GMT -5
So I start jogging today guys, wish me luck!
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Post by muirrin on Jun 12, 2006 1:41:53 GMT -5
LOL more luck then, CM! Hope it goes better for you than it did for me... and I'm glad that you're going back to dancing. Wish I could, but it's too much trouble to find a place here and it'd be more money to spend... sooooo not worth it. If you need more support, you know where to post But it sounds like you have more than enough from your boyfriend - so glad you've found a nice bloke for yourself!
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Post by Laurel Chaisson on Jun 12, 2006 10:57:32 GMT -5
Are you saying 35 lbs overweight according to BMI? According to a doctor or naturopath? BMI is just an average. It doesn't take into account your level of energy or eating habits or even gender and age! I'm such a hypocrite, lol, but trust me when I say this: if you are eating well, getting a normal amount of excersize (an hour a week, I think, is the ideal), and you have energy, then you're not fat.
This is a touchy issue. I know that no amount of words will ever make a person feel comfortable with themselves (especially with how you've been treated at a young age) but please, be careful... you do NOT want to go down the eating disorder road.
You're really at risk... "but I don't feel like I eat a lot. . . everyone tells me I don't eat a lot. . .", "Why is it that I can't just eat normally and be thin like everyone else?" I've been trying to catch up to "everyone else" for almost a year now. It starts with a diet and excersize, normal... but when it doesn't work and you get frustrated, you think it's your fault, that you're not trying hard enough. A person can live on ice water and cold showers and 1/8ths of an apple a day, but it's not happy... it's not happy to want thin all the time because there will always be someone thinner than you and the day there isn't, you're dead. And you can't ever escape it, no matter how much weight you gain back after you dip under 100 lbs. You can try throwing up, you can excersize until your eyeballs hurt... but even when you're thin, you won't be able to enjoy it because it'll be just a few pounds away from happiness.
Thin might seem so wonderful... every thin person is so happy! But they might not be and it certainly wouldn't be because of their weight. Jeez, I have to listen to myself more often. ^___^;; But... just remember; healthy is beautiful, being weak, sickly, and tired all the time because you're trying to live off ketones isn't...
/serious talk, lol. But my advice is to talk to a doctor/naturopath. There may be a cause like a food intolerance you didn't know about or a metabolic thing like not enough sleep or excersizing/eating/sleeping at the wrong time or the wrong way.
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Post by thecrystalmaiden on Jun 12, 2006 11:05:48 GMT -5
Thanks so much Laurel! I took a huge nutrition class last semester talking about eating disorders and whatnot and I haven't been eating under 1500 calories a day, I don't want to mess up my metabolism and end up not being able to lose weight ever again. My nutrition teacher was also a professional nutritionist, personal trainer, and dance teacher, so she seemed to really know what she was talking about - she lived the lifestyle she was teaching. It really is how I eat - I don't eat all the time as in snacking, but I eat a lot of stuff like pizza and I eat out a lot, which packs on the calories, and I haven't exercised regularly in almost two years. About six months ago I started taking kung fu and did that for a while, and I actually lost a lot of weight, but then I had to quit cuz it was too expensive and I gained back that amount of weight and more because I began snacking all the time, drinking sugary coffee drinks, etc. I want to go to a nuturopath though to see if I have any food intolerances or other things, because I have a feeling that I have a big allergy to dairy but I'm so used to having it that I don't even notice it's there. Just whenever I stop eating dairy, I start feeling much better. Thanks for the boost though, it's really good to hear input from the opposite side of the situation, and I'm really sorry you had to go through that stuff. My best friend right now is a recovering anorexic and she has a lot of health issues right now because of everything she did with her body. Being a crystal like me, is there anything you could say about foods to stay away from? I'm finding fast food is the worst thing ever these days.
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Post by shepardess on Jun 12, 2006 14:11:00 GMT -5
Thanks so much for the advise on the cleanse, I actually researched it alot and like I said I did it mostly as a way to detoxify my body, and really have seen amazing results in terms of my skin improving and how my intestinal track functions which is really why I did it in the first place. It just was a little kicker to lose the weight also. I also suffered from chronic fatigue most of my life and even though It sounds fake to most people it was very real for me and have not suffered those symptoms since then. The cleanse actually consists of about twelve glasses a day of a "lemonade" you make with 2 TBSP of lemon juice about 15 cal and 2 TBSP of Maple Syrup at about 100 Cal then you put in an 1/8 tsp of cayenne just to make it extra delicious:) So I guess its not quite 1500 (1380) calories but its just about a hundred less than that. I don't know enough about nutrition to know whether that makes a difference. Thanks again for the warning and I'll definately talk to my natropath before doing again. As you told Laurel, I bet for sure you that you are allergic to dairy, I am very allergic and although I still slip up, because its so good, I know that my body works incredibly better when I stay away from it. Do indigos and Crystals commonly have more food allergies than the rest of the world? I would also imagine the you probably have a wheat allergy as well, especially refined wheats. Actually I think most of the world does. I have been able to make a few changes in my diet like buying sprouted wheat bread, its flourless and made from wheat grains that have been sprouted so you actually get the benefit of eating a live food, and its chewier and lighter than most wheat breads. Every once in a while I read updates on whatsuponplanetearth.com, and although I never trust anything like that implicitlly there have been paralells in my life that have been pretty fun. Anyways, if you go by her words she suggests that there have been some energy shifts that will allow all of us who were holding this weight to drop it as we might not need it anymore to stay grounded. Prophsey is prohesy but its still encouraging in any case, whether it true or not it still gives a little bit of an optimistic outlook and that always helps Anyways, way to go with beginning to jog and thanks again, Kate
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Post by Laurel Chaisson on Jun 12, 2006 14:19:19 GMT -5
Sugar and aspartame... caffeine's a biggy. Lots of HV kids are intolerant to milk and wheat, it seems, as well. Try to eat lots of organic (if you can, it's expensive ) or raw food. Veggies and fruit are best raw and fresh! Food tends to lose it's energy when you leave it too long... not just physical energy, but life energy as well. ^___^ And avoid microwaved stuff because it's ussually pre-cooked and that means it's been empty of it's life energy for a while.
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Post by thecrystalmaiden on Jun 13, 2006 11:29:17 GMT -5
BTW, I just went to that website and looked and aspartame, and a lot of the weariness I've been experiencing I think is due to that! I haven't been drinking diet stuff for very long now, just a few weeks, but I do notice that I am even more tired now than I was when I was taking in a lot of caffeine. Scary! I looked up Splenda too btw (sucralose) and it seems like some people are having quite back allergic reactions do it, some of which take years to show themselves, so I'm going to be careful taking that stuff too. Thanks guys! Second day jogging and I feel great!
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Post by liquidchild on Aug 14, 2006 23:50:57 GMT -5
Hows your workout routine going crystalmaiden?
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Post by prUuf on Aug 15, 2006 0:25:17 GMT -5
aspartame is poison! all artificial sweeteners are bad. they give the body the illusion of organic sugar, so your body produces some stuff, but as there is no real sugar (e.g. from fruits), one tends to become more fat.
I would add forgiveness work, that will do a lot. try the sedona method or get an auric&karmic clearing.
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Post by Caerai on Aug 15, 2006 5:04:38 GMT -5
They're right CM dont' get an eating disorder...it'll scar you for life, I used to have one and I still suffer from the mental effects of it. I find the best way to shed kilos though is purchase an exercise bike or a treadmill, place it infront of the TV then you can watch the shows you like and bike/run at the same time. It won't seem like such a chore...for example if you watch an hour long TV show...and pick at 20/kmph you go 20 kilometres over that hour which is pretty good . Personally...I bike 5-10k a day, do 100 situps/pressups before I go to bed and do martial arts twice a week as well as yoga and taichi when I feel like it...this I feel keeps my 'weight' under control. but Tbh although you're not stick thin, you're not overweight o.o. something like 2/3 American's are overweight, so if anything, by the national average you're extremely underweight and those girls thinner than you, well they're not even on teh scale .
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Post by Vesica on Jan 10, 2007 17:34:06 GMT -5
There's nothing to worry about, really. So why do you care so much about it? Our senses are aimed to the outside world, we see, hear etc. Because we are aimed to that so much we can say we are busy with that a lot and we forget the inner, because in the end the inner is all that matters.
Excuse me for this late response, but I looked at the forums and I saw the word emotion. Emotions are impure, look at what they do with you. Even the emotion love (which is not real love, real love can be compared with a mother's love for her child) is impure, because look at what we do in the name of love. Real love is uncondintional and full of wisdom. How can love me perfect if it isn't based on wisdom? Therefore, in the fire of wisdom burns the flame of love.
Vesica
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Post by djgirlcherise on Jan 27, 2007 23:13:05 GMT -5
Yes, one hundred percent! Real love contains a fire that purifies. Written into every myth from every culture, purifying fire. THE 3FOLD VIOLET FLAME OF KRISTOS KONSCIOUSNESS.
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Hail ArcAngel Michael Protect us and consume all forces of non good energy from Mother Earth
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Post by lightsparkler on Aug 17, 2008 14:14:45 GMT -5
I don't know if you've read Doreen Virtues books. Doreen describes angels as beings who are often overweight, bechause they use the extra pounds as a form of protection in their energy fields.... I don't know if you identify yourself as such.
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resonator
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Waiting for you to call me...In the back of my mind...
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Post by resonator on Aug 21, 2008 23:18:17 GMT -5
Maiden, do not sink yourself to their level. You are a magnet for their negativity because of your natural positivity! Loving yourself for who you are, and truly you should be loved as a child from the stars (Otherwise you would not be here), will give you all the strength you need to overcome this There are things to oneness that some people may not grasp, but you must seek it for it to be true for you. Being part of a living thing on a spiritual level has many adverse and helpful effects on you while you are contained in this body. If you give yourself to the one, then accept the one is with you, for that is true unity in action. It all depends on where you align yourself with it. It is not a fast journey. It is not an easy journey. There will be times, in this submission of your soul to the one, that you will find yourself being deluded. But even the Devil is one with God, so know that what comes from him, comes from God himself. It is because of where he was put that his words are illusory in nature. Ask yourself: What is the opposite to these bad thoughts? Could it possibly be that they are truly meant to help me realize who I am, what I really can do for myself and my brothers and sisters? I leave it for you. When you use your imagination, it will resonate the best where you are aligned In confidence and faith, - Resonator
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lightsparkler
Awakened
Hail ArcAngel Michael Protect us and consume all forces of non good energy from Mother Earth
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Post by lightsparkler on Sept 30, 2011 10:52:17 GMT -5
This is not the duality forum, this is the higher vibrations forum.
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